There is a stereotype regarding men and women that says that men like to solve problems while women like to seek sympathy and see a problem as a way to relate. OK, there is some truth here, but it is more of a vague tendency than a strong trait, and there are exceptions on both sides. The video below depicts the stereotype quite humorously.
But there is a human problem, shared by most of both sexes, wherein people seek relief more so than healing. Healing takes guts; it requires courageous change and often involves difficult choices. Many would rather seek quick answers than face the deeper issues that often drive their struggles. Thus a person may want relief from anxiety but not want to look at his lack of faith, or the unrealistic expectations and perfectionism that may drive his anxiety and low self-confidence. Many would prefer to take a pill to solve their problems (ignoring the potential side effects) instead of looking at the lifestyle choices that often underlie their issues.
We all need some sympathy, but we also need to be summoned to examine how we contribute to our own malaise. Consider that as you enjoy this humorous video.
There may be something to be said about the “constant complaining habit.” Sure, some of it is useful in summoning solutions to what bothers you, but the continuous rants probably are not helpful in the long run. Also, the way one uses language to convey their state of mind like ” I am so depressed” or “I can’t take it any longer” may exacerbate one’s problems, too.
These conclusions are not mine but are of the late Dr. Abraham Low, the creator of Recovery International, set forth in his book “Mental Health Through Will Training.” Catholic author Rhonda Chervin credits him in helping her deal with anger issues.
That was very funny. People who enjoyed that video might also enjoy: Clarence Henry “Frog Man” – Ain’t Got No Home (Argo) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kGdoRpOwQaY