Daily Reflections on Friendship

Archdiocese of Washington: Year of Faith series

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Dominican Brothers of the Province of St. Joseph

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Theme: Friendship.

1.  Can we be friends with God?

Friendship is the very basis of our relationship with God in Jesus Christ: “I no longer call you slaves…I have called you friends.” (Jn 15:15) One quality of friendship is an exchange of personal knowledge and openness. As St. Thomas Aquinas says, “It is proper to friendship that a man reveal his secrets to his friend: because friendship unites their affections, and of two hearts makes one.” Couldn’t you use a good friend right about now? Friends talk to one another; friends listen to one another. When was the last time you spoke to Jesus as a true friend and from your heart? He is listening.

2.  Why is it good to share things with our friends?

Another mark of friendship is that we share our belongings with our friends. “A friend is another self,” so we help a friend as we would ourselves–which is part of willing and doing good for our friend. St. John asks, “But if any one has the world’s goods and sees his brother in need, yet closes his heart against him, how does God’s love abide in him?” (1 Jn 3:17) Think too of the great love God has for us. When we were His enemies, He cleansed and sanctified our hearts by the gift of the Holy Spirit, and thus made us His friends.

3.  Do you find delight in the presence of God?

“It also belongs to friendship that a man delight in the presence of his friend, and rejoice in his words and deeds: also that he find in him consolation in all his troubles: hence it is especially to our friends that we have recourse in time of sorrow.” How true this is of our friendship with Jesus! When we look upon God in prayer with a loving gaze true delight arises in our hearts, and we are able to admire His goodness. This type of prayer is called contemplation. It makes us lovers of God, and it brings us amazing joy. Do you find delight in the presence of God? Does your friendship with Jesus bring you joy?

4. What if our friends hurt us?

At their best, friends are always trying to build one another up and seeking the others good. But we are not always at our best, and all too often we end up offending those we truly care about. Still, the bond of friendship can overcome even serious human failings because “love covers all offenses.” (Pr 10:21) Of course God’s love for us is the ultimate friendship, and likewise the ultimate example of forgiveness. Despite our countless offenses against Him, by His love we are pardoned and we can be restored to our undeserved status as friends of God. What is more, by our love for God we are called to love all who are His–all people, both our friends and our enemies.

5.  Does friendship mean agreeing with my friend?

Another part of friendship is harmony with your friend. Friends often and easily unite their wills, even in the smallest things, and even if they are very different personalities. We are also friends with God. Jesus says, “If you love Me, keep My commandments” (Jn 14:15). Friendship with God means aligning our wills to His. But there is nothing burdensome or weary about agreeing with friends. In friendship, we aren’t oppressed by obligation, but moved by the weight of love. The Holy Spirit moves us to follow God’s commandments from the heart, with love. St. Paul says, “Whosoever are led by the Spirit of God, they are the sons of God” (Rom. 8:14).

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3 Replies to “Daily Reflections on Friendship”

  1. Jesus is the truest and most faithful of friends, the best friend I’ve ever had!!

    For years, I have meditated on St. Augustine’s words about loving our friends, “in Christ”. When I first read these words, I had no idea what it was to have a friendship that was based on mutual love for the Lord, and more importantly, what it was to care for that person out of love for Him! Over the years I have discovered that many of my friendships have been either self-centered or other-centered, but rarely, truly CHRIST-centered. Anyway… I’m always working on it.

  2. Sirach 6:16, “A faithful friend is an elixir of life.” Spiritual friendships really do have the power to be “life-saving medicine.”

    Will you please pray for an intention? Sister Helena Burns and I are giving a talk this weekend on “Authentic Friendships in an Age of Social Media” in Peoria, Illinois. More info on the talk here: http://firstsaturdaypeoria.blogspot.com/2012/12/authentic-friendship-in-age-of-social.html

    I ask for safe travels and a spirit-led evening of faith and fellowship. Thank you!

  3. How do I put this without sounding weird? The prayers of the Church are wonderful and varied, I don’t know them all but I do know the ones we say at Mass and before and after confession and meals, etc. The best prayer I find is to talk to God as a friend. I’m saying just talk, like you were talking to your neighbor about getting the weed out of the lawn, only this conversation about asking for help in getting the weeds out of your life. This may sound strange but I know it works for me, how do I know? Because i can feel it working, my life is improving, I’m on a much better path and my relationships with my wife and other friends is improving. So if your having a problem with having God as your friend, try talking with him, it is after all your prayer and he will hear you.

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